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Your Best Love, 4

1 Corinthians 13

Preaching notes

I.  Quick Review

A.  1st 2 Weeks – The Spirit of Marriage – Ephesians 5 and Philippians 2

Relate to spouse/love as

Christ to you – die, serve, to present us without blemish

You to Christ – submit, serve, think of them, one mind, Christ’s mind

B.  5 Tasks of Marriage – Genesis 2

    1. Help Mate
    2. Soul Mate – emotional and spiritually
    3. Team Mate
    4. Mating Mate
    5. Life Mate

Not Lifetime Achievement

Daily Tasks

        • Help Mate – always find at least one thing to do for spouse => Thank You
        • Soul Mate – emotional and spiritually – requires time 20 minutes minimum
        • Team Mate – support and encouragement
        • Mating Mate – 1 significant physical touch every day
        • Life Mate – affirmed and confirmed

Accomplishing these tasks

Not dutifully

With affection and love

=> last two sermons

C.  This Week and Next – The Emotion of Marriage

II.  Love – The Bonding Agent of Marriage

A.  Love defined

Love is the sovereign preference of one person for another – Oswald Chambers

Love is a naturally spontaneous rather than a reactive emotion

God loved us while we were still sinners

God loved us before we loved Him

Love must be cultivated and nourished by discipline

B.  1 Corinthians 13

Setting for this chapter

The Corinthians did not love each other, they loved themselves

=> fighting amongst themselves

C.  Vs 1-3 – Without love I am nothing

Love is the purpose for all you

Completion of 5 tasks or anything else in relationship

Not to prove or to boast,

but to express heart’s affection

D. Vs 4-7 – Paul lists specific characteristics, but not an exhaustive list

These were the characteristics lacking in 1st Church of Corinth

    1. Is patient and kind; 
    2. Does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude;
    3. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 
    4. Does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth;
    5. Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things;

This is Tough Love

Does not easily break

Bends under winds and in stress

Willing to do hard things

Does not enable destructive behavior

To these I add these from marriage counseling experience

Gracious – all sin and fall short

Faithful – Keep your 1st Love

Rev 2:4 – Ephesus

E.  Vs 8-10 – Never Ends

Every other activity and/or blessing of marriage is seasonal

From just you, to you and kids, to just you

F.  Vs 11-12 – Grows and matures

Best love is not puppy love – the sweetest

Best love is not early years – hopeful and ambitious

Best love is matured love – proven through difficulty, yields best fruit

G.  Vs 13 – The greatest attribute of relationship

If it ends … The relationship dies

=> back to earlier affirmation

To cultivate and nourish

through the discipline of completing

the 5 Tasks of Marriage everyday

Make more daily deposits into your love bank, than withdrawals

III.  Closing Summary

Love is not

a warm fuzzy feeling or emotion

sweaty palms and body heat

Love is a covenant commitment to a relationship

which takes time, energy, focus, work

Seeding, weeding, and feeding

which requires

Cultivation if there is to be a harvest

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