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Your Best Love, 2

Preaching Notes

Philippians 2:1-11

I.  Faith is Foundation of Marriage

A. If any statements

encouragement in Christ

comfort from love

participation in the Spirit



B. Then … Complete my joy

C. Relate to spouse based on experience of God

Rather than how they relate to you

NOT what they deserve

D. Side note – be equally yoked

Marry a believer 

==> equal basis for relationship

Otherwise God is not part of equation

For how they treat you

II. Be of One Mind

A. That mysterious union (Ephesians 5:31-32)

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

B.  Unique unity – rarely seen in marriage

by being of the same mind

having the same love

being in full accord

Rare and unseen in marriage – vs 5

Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus

Because it’s a unity with Christ and each other

C. Practical Aspect – Could not come from O or Dr. Phil

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit

In humility count others more significant than yourselves. 

Look not only to his own interests, 

Look to the interests of others.

This sounds great

But it is not the world’s way

World is egocentric

I, me, and mine are operative

My rights

My desires

My freedom

Independence reigns in so many marriages

III.  Example of Jesus

A. Verse 5

Have this mind … which is yours in Christ Jesus

Be Jesus to one another (back to Ephesians 5: 22 and 24, submit)

Think and do like him in relationship

Paul lists 3 unique characteristics about Jesus

In relationship to and love of us

B. Verse 6

Who, though he was in the form of God, 

did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped

No claims to 

title, honor, rights

based on who He was

Hear these claims in counseling all the time

I did … I have … 

C. Verse 7

emptied himself

by taking the form of a servant

being born in the likeness of a man

Gave up his 



Title as Lord



To become a servant 

to the ones He loved

Serving is the position taken by Christians

Yet is held in disdain in so many marriages

Spouses so focused on rights and equality

Lose the secret of growing love – service

D. Verse 8

being found in human form, 

he humbled himself 

by becoming obedient to the point of death, 

even death on a cross

Humbled himself

Rather than waiting to be humbled

Became obedient

Even when it killed him

Even when painful

Do what your spouse needs, desires, requests 

Before asked

When asked

This requires knowing your spouse well

Which means you observe, take interest

Mundane, everyday, and special

Also requires

Giving up your needs, desires, requests


Know each other’s needs in general


Men and Women have different needs


Book: His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley, Jr








IV. Then Comes the Joy and Blessings


God has highly exalted Jesus 

Bestowed on him the name that is above every name, 

So that at the name of Jesus 

every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth 

every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord

To the glory of God the Father

This means

Your honor, your glory

Comes AFTER 

doing these things

Not before

Often here spouses

Wanting to be honored, glorified, held in esteem

Do not demand it

Live like Jesus

It will come




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